Once upon a time in a not so distant land called Memory, in a dark dungeon in the land, there lived a princess called Pinkmary, but she didn’t know that she was a princess because she was bound in chains by a dragon who fed her with lies…lies that she believed. The best times of her life were spent in bondage with the dragon.
In the same land was an exile called Princess Tinkerbelly, err, Tinkermary.
She saw what the dragon was doing to Princess Pinkmary so she sought to set her free. She went to Princess Pinkmary’s dungeon and loosened her chains one day at a time. Alas! Princess Pinkmary seemed to have been deceived by the dragon very well. Even with loosened chains, she thought she was still bound to the dragon and had to be with him. Even with opportunities to escape him, she chose to stay…with the dragon…in the dungeon.
I’ve run out of creativity hahaha…sabi ko na hanggang non-fiction lang ako eh…for now…not even creative non-fiction…
I am Princess Tinkermary and I happened to have known Princess Pinkmary at one point. I reached out to her but she broke my heart in a way I did not imagine – I was blindsided. So, I moved on. But someone said, “pray for those who hurt you and the hurt will go away.” I did not give it much attention. I was hurt and disappointed and terribly so! But I was continuously nudged by the Holy Spirit to pray for Princess Pinkmary. And I answered, “but why me?” Somewhere at the back of my mind, I was reasoning, “ako na nga sinaktan, ako pa magdarasal sa kanya?! Marami naman siyang ibang kaibigan…” But the nudges continued to the point I had headaches trying to reason with God why I should not pray for her. At one point, I asked a friend, “pwede ko ba syang ipagdasal…because praying for her would bring back memories…?” and she answered, “wala naman akong nabasa sa Bible na wag mo ipagdasal ang tao.” Wahahah, tama nga naman. So, I reluctantly obeyed and prayed for Princess Pinkmary to accept the freedom that the Prince of Peace was offering her, for her to be set free from the dragon by the Real King as He had been doing all along. More leading came to pray for her, her family (father, mother, and siblings), and her provisions. I remembered some of her prayer points and prayed for those. I hoped that she would finally see that God had been leading her out….she just could not see that and that’s the consequence of having been in the dark for so long, you cannot see the truth.
I highly suspect that like the lessons on patience and managing finances well that I have had to learn, this is part of my lessons on forgiveness and I better pass this so that I can move on to the next lesson; if not, I wonder how I should continue to learn this. Because I learned that most of the time, God’s lessons are never head knowledge, hardly theoretical. They are practical. He has put me in situations where I would be so hurt so I would learn to forgive, in situations where I have had to be with people I thought I would not be able to stand so I could learn patience, and He has put me in situations I could not control so as to learn to trust God. After all, He is more concerned about my holiness than my happiness, in my character than in my comfort.
Matthew 5:48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
1 Thessalonians 3:13 May he strengthen your hearts so that you will be blameless and holy in the presence of our God and Father when our Lord Jesus comes with all his holy ones.
The Miracle of Prayer
I had committed the land of Memory to Oblivion. But when I obeyed to pray for her, I felt my heart of ice melt to give way to a heart of flesh.
A friend once told me that the opposite of love is not hate; the opposite of love is indifference. And that was true for me. I did not really hate her but I was beginning to be indifferent towards her. My initial prayer was (kasi nga pinagbibigyan ko lang si God di ba? Masabi lang na ipinagdasal ko sya.), “Bahala ka na sa kanya, God. Pwede ba yun na lang ang prayer ko?” Waahhhh…I had continued debates with God for a season but He always wins! So, ok, ipagdasal ang kanyang tunay na pangangailagan…
I was reminded “to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” but she wasn’t even my enemy. More and more, I began to see that she was just another lost soul who was as deceived as I once was. The mystery of praying for your “enemy” is experiencing how hurt can be replaced by love, mercy, and compassion that come from seeing the lost through the eyes of Jesus.
Matthew 9:36 When he saw the crowds, he had compassion for them, because they were harassed and helpless,like sheep without a shepherd.
The Fairy Tale Ending
I saw that there is a king waiting for Princess Pinkmary – a big person whose bigness is not just in physical size but in leadership. He will rule his kingdom with Princess Pinkmary, whom he will treat as his queen, with authority. And the king has a heart big enough for Queen Pinkmary’s Little Princess Pink.
Then they will love happily ever after.
And that is a vision, not fiction.
When I reached out to Pinkmary, I held on to this verse:
Romans 8:28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good,[a] for those who are called according to his purpose.
After all the hurt, it is still my verse.
If I keep a heavenly perspective and believe Romans 8:28, enemies are not really enemies… they are some of the best friends I have. What is sometimes meant by some to hurt me actually helps bring about a work of grace in me that wouldn’t take place any other way.
When a supposed enemy attacks, God exposes the sinful blind spots that lie hidden in my heart. When friends extol my good virtues and praise me, I appreciate their expressions of love, but it is more important that I be told the truth especially when it will wound me deeply (Proverbs 27:6). Otherwise I will not work to become more like Christ and the blind spots I have will grow and further infect my soul…
Without people doing what they think will hurt or destroy me, I would never find the way to being more like Jesus. They are a required part of becoming holy. And because of that I must see them as my best friends!